Space between us
Some friends get close emotionally, then get far spatially and everything that ever was there disappears. They forget each other, not permanently, but they forget to stay in touch. Some people are good at staying in touch. Some people leave and you never hear from them again.
What is it about distance that creates a real rift between people? Judge always puts it, "Out of sight and out of mind". What I get from that is that if you can't see them you don't think of them. Well, recently I have had a good friend from last year give me a couple random calls and it really lifts my day. On the other hand, I have neglected to call anyone not nearby for the last couple months and somehow I have forgotten the good friendship we had.
Some people come into our lives and really make a difference. They make us better people, happier, more confident. However, some relationships just don't last. They leave and so do all the good times with them. How are some people drawn so close together while others are always kept at a distance? Why does a spatial distance really affect the closeness of the relationship? Why are goodbye's harder for some people and not for others? Moving on is an action we must get accustomed too in life, but is part of that forgetting? Maybe, even in the smallest degree?
I don't know. Nevertheless, I am not a fan of goodbyes and I have gotten used to them. I don't know if I like that though.
a man from Saipan spoke @ 2/12/2005 05:18:00 PM
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5 Comments:
That's something that's been bugging me a lot lately too. I have so many friends that I spent so much time with last semester and over the break with that I don't get a lot of chances to hang out with anymore. Well I was going to write more, but you just made me realise something Justin. Thank you.
I'm going to go right now and spend some time with a friend I haven't talked to a lot in a while. One of my best friends here at BYUH in fact. He always inspires me. I'm going to go to his room and finish checking blogs and emails from there while talking to him. Over and Out.
And Stuff,
~Vasu~
Posted by Blink Fandango
I HATE saying goodbye. I've done it so often and I only once expected to stay in touch. I've gotten used to being forgotten. I guess now I'm gettin ready to be forgotten... It's an interesting position i'm in. Not unique if I don't put in the details.
I ought to be doing my homework.
Posted by capt. caf
I find it hard to keep in touch with people when we're far apart... I don't know why... I always respond to e-mails, will chat on a whim, and even send letters or gifts for any sort of special occasion... but I find that despite my efforts, most friends are lost or put "on hold." I've grown used to the feeling and (no offense) bet I could live just as happily if I never saw or contacted anyone I met here ever again... Not that I want that... I REALLY don't want that... having more people means I will have more time to do stuff thats not considered selfish... But I always have the notion somewhere in the back of my mind that says "I won't see this person or hear from them 5 years from now, don't grow too dear to them." Its sad to think about it... but I prefer not to... mostly it just happens naturally... Heres hopin' I don't lose more friends...
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Keepin' it believably unreal,
Mike
Posted by Mike
Saying good bye sucks that is all there is to it. I have stopped saying good bye. I say see ya later cause then that leaves it that i will have to see them again or im a liar. I found that people can stay close even when they dont keep in touch that much. Me and my best friend for example. She is not online much but we are still just as close as ever. Its kind of hard to describe but even when ive been gone for a year as soon as we meet up it is like i was never gone. and it always helps when you send an email cause they are bound to reply eventually...
well Ill see ya ltr
Posted by E
It takes a lot of hard work to stay in touch with all those you see as important in your life. I spend hours a week trying to keep in touch with my friends who are on the mainland. It kills me because it takes away from being able to spend time with friends here, but at the same time, it is that important to me. Out of sight doesn't mean out of mind, it just means that you have to look within yourself to remember the person. It's even harder sometimes to stay in touch with family.
As long as we have memories, we will have connections to those that come and touch our lives. We are responsible to maintain those connections and be sure they are healthy. In maintaining those connections, sometimes we discover that the other person does not want to carry on. As that comes around, we have to look within ourselves to see if we are willing to stick with it when the other person isn't all for it. Strength, though it wearies the soul to maintain contact with someone who could care less either way, is what we need; strength of love and friendship.
Posted by Mandie