Dating Protocol...
On my blog I did a post about my cardinal rules of dating. It sparked some others to explain their cardinal rules of dating.
Mine are:
- Don't let her see you without a shirt on.
- Don't let her see you try to dance.
Don't let her hear you try to sing.
My sister LaDawn's:
- Don't let him see you without make up on.
- Don't let him see mom without her make up on (you tell how a girl is going to age by looking at her mother).
- Don't let him have a conversation with anyone in the family for longer than three minutes (two if it's Rob).
(If you knew my brother-in-law Rob you'd get that joke.)
Allison had these:
- Don't let him see you without a bra on. Boobs tend to sag a bit without the wonder bra!
- Don't let him see you without makeup was one but on a few occasions I had to do this since I was staying at his house over night. But I tried!
- Don't let him kiss me in the morning!
I thought that it might be interesting to see what you guys think about rules of dating.
I also think some dating protocol would be good. One example; I think that when a guy opens the car door for a girl, she should make sure that the door is unlocked for him by the time he makes it to his door. I have had to teach this unspoken rule to many girls and I really do appreciate it when girls already know and do it. It's not a big deal, but it does make a difference.
What do you say?
Jared spoke @ 1/26/2005 08:17:00 PM
13 comments
13 Comments:
I don;t really care about the car door thing, but no one has ever done that. I have a few but they are only writen in the sand.
1. No kissing her unless you have planed to do it ahead of time.
2. Never let her see you down (as in sad)
ok I have no idea what I'm talking about.
my head hurts....fish
Posted by jo of the buttons
I was going to post something profound and inspiring, but then I thought "what the heck do I know about dating?"
So I give you nothing...
And Stuff,
~Vasu~
Posted by Blink Fandango
Dating is this complicated game in which nobody seems to have the rules, or at least no two people have the same rules. Who opens the car door? Who pays? Do you walk her to her door? Ever dated someone from another culture? You may need to readjust what is considered appropriate.
On a particular date I went on, the guy was unsure of whether or not to get out of the car to open the door for me. Because I don't think it a big deal, while he was hesistating, I made it easy for him and opened my own door. Later that evening, however, we had a cool discussion about what was appropriate. I got to explain that some girls expect it, and others, like me, don't care - so it's always safe to just open anyway. Unless you attempt to, find out she's an extreme feminist, get your head bitten off and then you just never go out with her again.
As far as unlocking the door goes - I have never even heard of that before in my life!
Personally, I am against the cardinal rule idea. There are some base rules we should all go by, like not talking excessively about exs, or no kissing on the first date etc. But I can't think of anything that I want to hide intentionally for the time of courtship.
If I'm afraid of what someone thinks of me without makeup on, I'm really going to have to rethink waking up next to my man every morning. Sleep with makeup on maybe? If there are things they are going to have to see later, I'd rather not have it come as a shock.
I understand that the idea is that you reel them in enough so that those little things won't matter to them. Call me an idealist, but I'd very much rather the person not care about things like that in the first place.
I don't know about you - but I sure as heck don't plan to keep my bra on every time I have sex!
Posted by Faye
so i've come to the conclusion that the more you think of something really simple the harder you make it so in light of that i will go with vasu on this one and say nothing. next thing you know jared will make some rules for something stupid like. . .nose picking. . .or like butt kissing. . .or how about toe snapping.
Posted by Car Car
Faye: First off, I think your rule about no kissing on the first date (which I know you to have broken) is the same thing as my rules. Maybe not formalized so well, but it is basically the same idea right. As for the makeup, you hardly wear it anyway, so he definatly won't be supprised. Be glad you are one of those girls that don't need it. The car door thing: I guess you don't read the Ensign. If you read the one that they gave out to us at stake conference you'd have seen the "do's and don'ts" page. It was on the things for girls to do on a date. I felt validated to see it. Last comment for ya, good idea about the bra. I'll take mine off too.
Car Car: Who told you about my cardinal rules for nose picking?! Toe snapping is fine as long as you don't break off the toe you did it right. When you say butt kissing, do you mean like kissing up to someone or do you mean literal. If literal, I just go for it. I don't think rules apply there, do they?
Posted by Jared
Rules for dating? Don't they change all the time anyways? why bother writing them down if you know you're just gonna break them because each person is different and should be treated thus. Here's my one rule that I try to follow in all parts of my life including dating:
Don't do anything you're going to be ashamed of or regret in the morning.
Posted by Capt. Caf
You mean there are girls that don't unlock the door? I am not saying this to look good (cause I already do) but I always unlock the door for my date. Why should he have to put his key in two different doors when he can do just one?
Here is my NEW rules for myself. I had never made any before, but now that I am looking for something good and long lasting, instead of just a little fun, here they are. Capt. Caf is probably right though. They will be changed and broken.
1. Don't kiss him unless there is an established relationship.
2. I totally agree with the whole bra thing. Of course, I don't even like being without it infront of Faye, let alone leave the house without it. So, the bra stays on.
3. Don't run to him everytime you are upset about somehting. That is what FRIENDS are for.
4. If he constantly talks about your body or making out with you, he is a gonner. That is a sign that he is just going to use you.
I could go on forever... If anyone knows dating, it is me, but I don't exactly see that as a good thing.
Posted by momma jolley
About opening car door--automatic lock saves the date!
Posted by Singapore Girl
To Jared: hahaha, I know one girl who will not learn what you try to teach her. Not gonna do it, and hope you will have fun waiting for your girl unlock the car door for you.
Posted by Anonymous
I'm familiar with your dating rules. Mine stand as thus:
1) Never date a man who has had his tongue in your sister's mouth (or anywhere else on your sister really. Same goes for roommates).
2) Never date men who have children as old or older than you are.3) No more pity dates.
That's really all that's off limits. Yes, good dates unlock your door, but unless your door doesn't unlock from the outside (knowing your car, it might not) I really don't think that it's that big a deal.
Posted by nobody
1. Don't date a guy shorter than me.
2. Don't date a guy younger than me.
3. Don't date girls.
4. Don't date guys who write you love notes with spelling errors.
Posted by Tall girl
Deer Tall gril,
I luv u! Im about 5 fot tall and in luv. im soon gong on a michion (when i turn 19), but will you waite for me?
Posted by Jared
To quote Brak (roughly),
Love is when a male part of a species comes up to a female part of the species and says "Hey, do you want to go on a date?" and she says "Why yes, I would like to go on a date." And then they go to a restaurant, and she orders something called a 'salad.' And HE gets a great big piece of beef. That he eats. And that, to me, ladies and gentlemen, is love. Kinda makes you cry, don't it?
Posted by Jeremy